Past, Present and Future

People say “Forget the past, live in the moment and don’t think about the future”. I say “Embrace and learn from the past, live in the moment and don’t worry about the future”

Forgetting the past, be it a happy or a sad memory isn’t something I would like to do.(Anyways, I think that the past can’t be forgotten). If you get happy remembering the past, what’s wrong in enjoying that moment. Obviously reminiscing about that moment the entire day won’t do us any good but rejoicing for 5 minutes won’t do any harm and could actually provide inspiration. Yesterday, I was looking at my photos as a small kid when I had gone on a trip to Kashmir. I could be seen to be genuinely happy and delighted being in the midst of the valleys. I could be seen smiling in photos not just because a photo was being clicked, but because I was thoroughly relishing that particular moment. This memory made my night and as a result I slept really well. Added to that, it inspired me to write this blog. What more could I ask for?

Even if a memory makes you sad, think that you are strong enough that you endured and lived through it. Think that you learned something from it which would help you in the future. I wasn’t really happy 2-3 years back due to factors like peer pressure and insecurities but now looking back, I feel proud that I lived through it and improved my condition.

There is nothing wrong with thinking about the future. Just don’t worry about it too much. Thinking about what you want to achieve in the future is necessary in my opinion. I thought in 5th grade that I want my own book published and I began writing one but I hit a dead halt after about 6000 words. However, I still kept on writing short articles and was the first one to start doing a writing task given in school. And then one day, my English teacher asked me to write an article for my school magazine. That was the start of quite an eventful journey. I started writing regularly for the magazine and became the student coordinator of the magazine. Having gained quite a bit of confidence, I started writing this blog which is doing reasonably both in terms of consistency and numbers…This blog too wasn’t started impulsively. I remember the same teacher asked us to write our goals by the end of the year. This incident of last year. It was then when I thought of writing a blog. And then, I grabbed the golden opportunity of being published. Quills writing club, an organisation which selects students from schools and helps them get published, collaborated with our school. And I got selected!!! So within a few months, our(I and a few other students) book would get published and I’m quite happy with the short story that I have written and feel that it is the best piece that has come out of my pen. Even though it might not be something extraordinary, all these things have instilled self-confidence in me. So Ma’am, if you’re reading this, thanks a lot!!!

Similarly, I always aimed at winning a national competition. Even though, I have not been able to win one yet, I did win an inter-school quiz which might be a really small achievement as compared to winning something at national level but it has kept me motivated.

All of this just because I did think about the future.

Living in the moment is what we need to do. However, past and future do have their importance and can’t be ignored.

Over and Out

My bucket list before I turn 50.

Hey. Just like I wrote a letter to my past self., I would like to write a post for my future self. I hope all these things which I mentioned below have been achieved by me by then. So here it goes-

  1. You have become a top-class psychologist or a top-shot economist.
  2. You have skydived. Skydiving has been your dream since you were 16 but it scared you back then. Hope that you overcame that fear:)
  3. You have authored/ co-authored a book however small your part may be.
  4. You have the money to travel business class wherever you go. Even though you hated all those Lamborghinis or Ferraris, you traveled business class once and fell in love with it and have always hoped to have the money to travel that class…
  5. You are going to meet your favorite tennis player -Rafael Nadal in an airport (Quite a random prediction)
  6. You continue writing your blog even now provided reading blogs hasn’t become obsolete
  7. You are still in contact with your friends from school and your best friend during school days is still your best friend.
  8. You still read Diary of a Wimpy Kid every year provided Jeff Kinney still writes those books :).(Hope the kid in you doesn’t go away)
  9. You own an iPhone 27 keeping in mind some other company doesn’t provide a better phone which it probably won’t. (Android fans, come after me:) )
  10. Your signature becomes an autograph
  11. You still write your diary regularly pouring in your feelings that you are too shy/afraid to tell to anyone else.
  12. Your room still remains untidy as it is today.
  13. You go back to your school to be the chief guest of an event held there.
  14. You are still in love with playing basketball and have won at least one tournament.
  15. Your name appears on the TV but only for the correct reasons.
  16. You still have the ownership of the house where you live right now and go back there every once a while and reminisce about your old memories.
  17. You have gone on a biking trip at least 500 kilometers long
  18. You have visited Antarctica maybe with a friend who also wants to go there.
  19. You learn to meditate and are happier than ever.
  20. You are still the same philosophical person.
  21. You get over things more easily than you used to
  22. You have a person to talk to about the most sensitive of topics(except your parents)
  23. You take your mother to Norway or Sweden to view the Aurora Borealis
  24. You buy your father a first-class ticket with your self-earned money
  25. You open an NGO which operates worldwide to help people who can’t afford basic health services with someone who has this same wish as you.

And then obviously I hope all of these wishes come true.

Over and Out

Ego and arrogance

Your ego is your soul’s worst enemy

Rusty Erie

Ego is something which I believe is present in people’s soul by birth. I say so because no one can teach you to be egoistic. It is an innate tendency of people to be full of themselves and wanting to see themselves above everyone else. I think that even though people might appear to be humble from the outside, a significant portion of them are really proud of themselves for the smallest of things that they might have achieved. Once you really care for someone, that ego would disappear while you are with that person but as soon as you are with a stranger, letting go of ego is exceptionally difficult.

I am under the impression that ego has been responsible for the fall of many powerful leaders in the past and is the reason for a lot of global tensions. Once ego comes in, peace goes away. Everyone is so busy in proving their might that they are forgetting that all their power will turn to nothing when they die. However, if they perform acts of kindness, they will live on even after their death. Providing basic amenities of education and health for a poor person would go a far far longer way than spending money on yourself just to show off.

Being jealous of others is not something which is rare. I am of the opinion that even though jealousy can drive you to achieve something you aspire to, it causes you to take the path of self destruction more often than not. Being jealous is normal. However, I feel it is necessary to ensure that seeing other people successful doesn’t cause you to develop a hate towards them.

If other’s success shouldn’t affect you, so shouldn’t your own success. So many times have we seen in the history of the world that arrogance of leaders have led to their demise. Take the example of Alexander or Napoleon Bonaparte. It was their arrogance that led to their downfall.

There is a very thin line between confidence and arrogance. You need to be confident but confidence doesn’t mean you should belittle others. Confidence doesn’t mean you have to be high-headed. You have to maintain a balance between having your independent views and not thinking you’re always right.

Even though it’s easy to say that don’t be arrogant or egoistic, it is quite difficult to not be arrogant and confident at the same time in practicality. Dear reader, I hope you strike a balance between the two.

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People…

All of us meet different kinds of people in our lives. Some are selfless, some are helpful, some are loyal and some are kind. Not to say that good people don’t exist, but what I have been noticing is that people are becoming more and more ungrateful and selfish day by day.

Personally speaking, I’ve had friends who have had my back during difficulties but I have had more friends who are self-centered. Recently, a friend of mine called me after a long time and just within a minute of talk, he asked me for a huge favor which was beyond my capacity to fulfill.

On the contrary, people one can talk to about anything without fearing about anything are the kind of people I love. They are loyal and don’t hurt people’s feelings. Recent experiences have shown me you can’t trust people blindly. Whatever you do for them, most people won’t even care. I believe people should stick up to their word. Nobody likes hypocrites.

I believe we humans can develop a hate for a person we love within a matter of seconds(maybe rightly so) and don’t even give the other person the chance to explain themselves.

Can people change? I believe they sure can. But if someone believes they can’t change for the better, they won’t be able to see the change that they might be going through at that exact moment. If people can change and become thieves and drug addicts, why can’t people change for the better? Although, I think that there is something, say unconditional love or hatred, that makes people better or worse.

According to me, another habit that people have that they jump to conclusions really quickly. To quote an incident, a classmate of mine considered me to be not a good person and apparently developed a “hate” for me without even knowing who I was. The person has never even talked to me properly. Developing such perceptions for people without even knowing them is outrightly judgemental.

People don’t understand that what they speak might hurt others. They speak whatever is on their minds to complete strangers without realizing the effect it might have on the other person…

We humans don’t need better technology or materialistic things to make this world a better place. We need compassion, love, gratefulness, and selflessness to achieve the goal of universal happiness.

Peace

Over and Out

Why do you criticise people for the sake of it

Criticising people just because they are rich is a tendency which most of us have. But why There is a reason wealthy people have managed to earn so much. 99 out of 100 people people are rich because they have worked hard for their wealth. Criticise people’s actions, not people. Saying that Mr X is such a bad man because he has so much money and is buying private planes or luxury cars with it instead of helping the poor is illogical. I say that when he has worked so hard for his success, then why shouldn’t be allowed to buy what he wants to or has dreamt of having one day. Of course, giving to charity is a great thing but criticising others because they are buying things that they like is something which doesn’t make sense. Another thing I’d like to mention here is that children who take over their parents’ business have to work hard as well. It is only if they work diligently that they will be able to run the business in the desired manner. If there is food on your plate, you need to know how to eat it. It won’t enter your mouth by itself.

Similarly, someone who has powers or can influence decisions in an organisation has reached such a level because they have worked hard for it.

Another thing that surprises me is people love to criticise other religions and show their religion as the best. Some even tell their children to stay away from people of a particular religion or stay close to people only from their religion. Some atheists mock theists to no ends which is entirely wrong according to me . If you don’t believe in God, that’s fine. But this doesn’t mean you start condemning believers of God. Likewise, denouncing atheists makes no sense. Have your own belief but at the same time, respect others’ beliefs too.

People criticise others because of their occupation as well. Some hate doctors because they think doctors loot patients. Others hate businessmen because they think businessmen are crooks. A lot of us look down upon waiters and drivers and taunt people who take up such jobs by saying, “Such bad days have come that you have to take a job of such kind.”

Ahh and the society criticises people’s personal choices as well, be it choosing your career, having a girlfriend/boyfriend or roaming with friends of opposite gender(These are the things which are prominent in my country). It feels like you are going to get criticised on whatever choice you make.

Criticism is necessary but is useful only when it is constructive. While constructive criticism improves things and handling it is a really vital part of achieving your goal, destructive criticism demotivates people. Criticise, but only when you have a logical reason and not based on stereotypes.

Criticising someone just because they belong to a certain group or are more privileged than others is not something which makes sense. People should be criticised on the basis of what they do individually. And no, they should not be criticised for things like what food they like or what types of songs they listen to…

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Find happiness in little things!

“Don’t cry because it’s over. Smile because it happened.”

As I see it, the world is becoming less and less happy day by day. People are always worried about a certain thing or the other and they spend so much time being anxious about an anticipated future event that they forget to enjoy the present and see what actually what they are missing out on. A friend of mine told me, ” When I go for cycling in the evening and notice people around me, I can rarely spot happiness on their faces(barring young children). They are either look angry, sad, dejected or nervous. Never are they merry-looking.” These words of my friend stuck to me. He is not wrong when he says the world is full of selfishness and stereotypes which leaves little space for happiness and joy.

What we forget is that in the end, we all are going to die until and unless someone invents a thing which can make humans immortal(VERY UNLIKELY). So why don’t we spend our time on Earth laughing and smiling, full of joy and happiness? We try so hard to maintain a good reputation amongst others what we stop caring about ourselves. It is rightly said that the most malicious disease is the thought that “What will others say”. If you enjoy or like something, go buy or experience it!

I myself get excited and happy about little things be it going out for dinner or watching my favorite tennis player win a trophy. I look forward to the days on which my favorite dish is prepared and on which my favorite basketball team is going to play a match. I love going to the door to receive a pizza and I really enjoy myself listening to songs all alone in my room with no disturbances. I am thrilled just by the fact that my blog has received a few hundred views and people are commenting good things about it. I really pride myself on this quality of enjoying little things.

Preparing for the future is necessary but that doesn’t mean we don’t enjoy ourselves. You never know what is going to happen tomorrow. It takes not even a single second to lose every tangible thing that you have. So invest more in intangible things like memories. Find happiness in small facts like having a great night’s sleep or receiving texts from your loved ones. As one of the closest people I know has rightly put it,” The time enjoyed wasting is not time wasted!” Stephen Chbosky has rightly stated, “There is nothing like deep breaths after laughing that hard.”

Money alone can’t give you happiness. I have jumped to this conclusion based on my observations of rich and poor people. The rich are generally worried about earning more and more while the poor enjoy the little things that they have. (This is my view that I observe most of the time). Be happy if you have a roof over your head and have a bed to sleep! Millions don’t have this luxury and many of them are still happier than many of us who can afford such things.

The meeting that you are worrying about is going to go really well if you have prepared well and not if you haven’t. So why worry!

Over and Out

 

Going vegetarian!

“If slaughterhouses had glass walls, everyone would be a vegetarian”- Paul McCartney
People who know me are aware of the fact that I used to love non-vegetarian food. Till February of this year, I used to crave non-vegetarian food, be it chicken, eggs or fish. Being the only member of my family who used to eat non-vegetarian food, the amount of meat I would eat was considerably less but whenever I ate non-vegetarian food, I would love it.

But deep down inside, there had always been guilt.The guilt of having indirectly killed an animal for my own short-lived pleasure. The guilt of eating another animal for a taste that would go away after a while. We had to write an essay supporting or going against non-vegetarian food. I wrote against it even though I ate chicken and eggs. That day I knew my subconscious mind doesn’t agree with my choice. Regardless, I did not stop for an year or so.

And then one day, I decided to become a vegetarian. Friends were surprised. Parents were shocked for I loved non-veg food. And then suddenly, I decided that I’m going to become a vegetarian so they were left in shock. Nevertheless, they supported my decision, probably because they themselves don’t eat meat.

Another factor that contributed to my decision was the condition that animals are kept in slaughterhouses. The conditions are so inhumane that if you look at the pictures of slaughterhouses, you would leave meat at once. I believe that eating meat is not important for maintaining the food chain as animals are artificially bred to meet and satisfy the human want of meat.

Also, having eggs is as bad as consuming meat if not worse. Again the conditions and the processes that chickens have to go through so that their production of eggs increase is horrifying. I would say it might be better to die instead of living under such terrible conditions and going through such horrifying treatment.

Just because we consider ourselves to be the “best” and the most advanced species on earth, doesn’t mean we don’t respect the lives of other species. Also, there are species which are more advanced than us in some way or other such as ways of communication or speed or reflexes. Morally, the lives of other species are as precious as ours. If we have the option of eating a plant-based diet, why not prefer that over killing harmless animals for our own pleasure!

Moreover, it is a huge myth that we can’t fulfill our nutrient requirements without non-vegetarian food. There is tons of variety available for vegetarians that provide proper nutrition. Indeed, it might be difficult to get vegetarian food everywhere with ease. But a little effort could save an animal’s life. To add to that, studies have found that vegetarian food leads to better health and reduces the chances of various diseases.

Don’t say that you love animals if you eat meat. You can’t love something and eat it at the same time.

I now proudly proclaim that my food is grown and harvested and not born and killed. After all, even Einstein said that nothing will benefit human health and increase the chances for survival of life on earth as much as the evolution to a vegetarian diet.

(All of these are solely my views. Everyone has a right to choose what they want to eat)

Over and out