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Lessons I’ve learned as a teenager

Being a teenager is quite an experience. Hormones are kicking through your body , you have mental breakdowns and one moment you are on top of the world and the next you hit rock bottom.

Here is what I have learnt during my teenage years-

  1. Don’t follow what others are doing blindly. Go where your heart desires and don’t succumb under peer pressure.
  2. Don’t indulge in alcohol just as yet.
  3. STAY away from smoking.
  4. Academics is important even if it is not everything.
  5. Pursue your hobby, be it writing, a sport or playing an instrument.
  6. Keep your friends small circle and don’t trust everyone.
  7. Listen to your parents and your friends. You are not always correct.
  8. Don’t do something just to prove someone wrong.
  9. Play video games but in moderation
  10. You can’t live without social media but don’t make it an addiction.Networking sites like Quora are much better than Snapchat and Facebook.
  11. Don’t demand products of luxury brands from your parents. If you want a Gucci bag, earn it.
  12. Be grateful for everything.
  13. You learn something from every single person and object in this world.
  14. Don’t just watch motivational videos and read philosophical quotes. If you want to follow them, be cautious
  15. Infatuation isn’t love so don’t fall for every other person.Get to know the person first.
  16. Have ambitions and dreams. If you don’t have something to be excited about or don’t have anything in particular to do when you wake up, you are wasting your life.
  17. Don’t oversleep or overeat just because you are feeling sad.
  18. Listen to music. It does help improve your mood.
  19. Express your feelings to your loved ones.
  20. You only have your family in the darkest times except one or two friends(who are basically family)
  21. Don’t over-trust. Your best friend can become your worst enemy tomorrow.

Over and out

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Is addiction always bad?

“Everything in excess is opposed to nature”-Hippocrates

To put it simply-Yes addiction is always bad. I don’t understand the notion that there are some addictions that are good.

Almost everyone would agree that addiction to alcohol is bad because it causes damage to your organs such as the liver. Similarly, nobody except perhaps those who themselves are addicted smokers, would go against me when I say addiction to smoking is bad because it affects the lungs and causes cancer. Oh, and obviously 99% of the people would agree that addiction to toxic drugs is detrimental for our body.

Then, there are people who proudly proclaim that they are and are indeed addicted to things like caffeine as if it is a good thing.[I also have to admit that I am addicted to chocolate and want to show my addiction to the world. So yes, you can call me a hypocrite 🙂 ] Obviously it does minimal harm if taken in moderate amounts but then addiction to it is never good. Until consuming coffee remains a habit, there is nothing to be worried about but then if you can’t “live” without it then that’s a problem. I have friends who say, “If we don’t get coffee every day, our day’s productivity would be minimal”. What if they stop getting coffee some day? Would they be able to work as efficiently as they could if they had coffee?

On the other hand there are poeple who are addicted not to things and consumables but to talking yo people- their best friend, their boyfriend/girlfriend and their loved ones.(Again I’m guilty of it) Some people proudly show this addiction by posting on social media their call log which displays the call time.(Strange people).Similarly people are happy to be addicted to playing video games, watching shows and movies.(Again, I’m guilty) . I, myself was addicted to Clash of Clans, a mobile game, around 2 years back. This lead to a downfall in both my personal and social life. What people don’t realise is that getting addicted to anything is bad.

And yes, getting addicted to your work is also not something to be happy about. There is a difference between being passionate about something and being addicted to it. If you are addicted to your work, you will have no time for your family, for your social life and chances are you might end up getting depressed. Also, to all the parents and students out there, studying too much is harmful for the child. You might argue that formal education is necessary but so is having hobbies and a social life. But then partying day and night doesn’t do anyone any good.

Therefore, its not only drugs, cigarettes and alcohol which can have adverse effects on us. Almost everything in this world is deleterious if taken in huge quantities be it consuming excessive beer or talking too much!

To sum it up, when water which is the basic need to sustain life, is hazardous in large quantities, then there can’t be possibly anything which is good in excessive amounts.

Also addiction to writing and moralising too much can be bad so

Over and Out!




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Are we really allowed to live our lives our own way?

We live in the world’s largest democracy(India) but I often wonder that are we being allowed to live our lives our own way in this country? The answer that comes to my mind is a starightforward ‘NO’.

Now my argument has 2 aspects. One legal and one moral. Let me talk about the moral one first. This is based on what the society and the public expects of us. They, in a way, force us become doctors or engineers when we might not be interested in these professions. If we don’t take either of these professions , we are regarded as a failure. They control our personal lives. They tell us what to do and what not to. If you want to go out with your friends which might involve both girls and boys, they start judging us. They regard us as shameless and a disgrace to our families . If we don’t want to celebrate some traditional festival and if we go against an old meaningless tradition , we are considered to be as someone who goes against his/her own culture and are condemned to no ends. If we get good grades, we are thought to be a nerd. If we don’t, we are thought to be a spoilt child.They decide how much we should learn. If we want to stay at home minding our own business, they regard us as an anti-social person. They decide how much time we get to stay out from our home. They decide our religion. They say, ” You have to follow the religion you are born into as it is a sin to change your religion”. You are thought to be a rebel if you get a tattoo. They decide how much affection you can show to people in public. It is they who decide what type of clothes you wear. You aren’t even allowed to choose whom you want to marry. “Leave it up to your parents and relatives.They know what’s best for you”. As if anyone know a person better than he knows himself. So the conclusion is that it is ‘they’ who control our social and personal life in this country.(“They” refers to the typical society) But I would like to mention that all these prejudices are changing slowly. But we still have a long way to go

Coming to the legal part, 3 of our states have banned alcohol for its citizens except for medicinal purposes. I am personally against the consumption of alcohol but according to me, every citizen has the right to decide if he wants to consume alcohol for it doesn’t have very harmful effects if taken in light amounts. The content that we might be creating in the form of movies, books, magazines etc is censored in such a way that it loses all its meaning. I myself fear writing blogs on certain topics due the growing hooliganism in our country. All these example show we aren’t being provided the rights we are entitled to in a true democracy. However I do agree that extensive rights given to us constitutionally are unparalleled and India is indeed amongst one of the most successful democracies despite the issues we face today.

I hope you will give a thought to my thoughts.

Over and Out.