A day of worry is more exhausting than a week of workJohn Lubbock
Stop worrying. Start living. What will happen will happen. You’re going to have to face it, come what may. Worrying and becoming anxious obsessing over a thing that may or may not happen won’t do you any good. Obviously, worry and anxiety are emotions that can’t be controlled. So, instead of worrying about something all day, give yourself some “own” time and think of all you want to and then go back to your normal life.
I myself overthink and worry a lot which is a habit I need to change. For instance, there was this Book Writing Project I was reluctant to participate in at first. But it turned out to be one of the best experiences ever. And then I’m worrying if I’ll be able to make friends in college when I’m in 11 grade right now. If I’ll be able to intermix with other people there. Leave college, let’s talk something more foreseeable. I might have friends but hardly 3 or 4 of them that I can call my true ones. So, all I keep thinking is how would I spend the year and a half left of my school life, whether I will be able to enjoy it.
But gradually I have understood hat a lot can happen within a day itself. Past experiences( I’m talking like a wise old man) have shown me that most friends aren’t going to be with you in the future no matter how much they promise that they are never going to leave you. Similarly, your priorities are also going to change. So you don’t know what the future beholds and as far as I’m concerned it can be beyond your wildest dreams(Positively or negatively). Who knows that this blog could get mere 50 views or could go on to become the most viewed(the latter is not likely but where would we be without hope)
Worrying about the future especially events that are not going to happen in months is of no use. One year ago, I was the most silent kid for some people and all I thought of at that time was that I wish these people actually knew me. And know when they do, I wish all that happened should never have happened.
Remember that it might be hurtful to walk away from people you like but it is more hurtful to stay with them if they don’t treat you the right way. This is another one of my weak points that I get too attached to or trust people too easily and start overthinking upon the slightest of my problems with my relationship with people.
Also, stop assuming everything anyone says is directed towards you. Chances are that they aren’t. To give an example, many of my friends always ask if what I wrote in my blog was directed towards them when whom it was directed towards are probably don’t read my blogs.
Stop being fickle-minded where you follow everything that others say!!
Taking tension of what others think of you is of no substance and I learnt that the hard way. I used to care if people called me studious and used to react before thinking. Now when I don’t, people have stopped. A quote that said “Be alone but be peaceful” really hit me hard. Ignore people who put baseless allegations on you because when you know from within that you haven’t done anything wrong, it doesn’t matter what others think. In the end, truth prevails and karma does its work.
You are just another human being on this earth. Earth makes up the tiniest bit of sand particle as compared to the universe. Think of how small you are and how meek is your worry. Think of how many people are dying because of hunger, have their freedom confined and don’t have houses to live in while you are here being perturbed by the thought that why did XYZ person say this to me. But, as Rumi says, “You are the universe in ecstatic motion”, meaning you have the power to affect everyone’s life for the better. So do your best, stop worrying but don’t stop believing. (Also, if you are still reading, you are a true one <3)
Over and Out.