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A letter to my 12 year-old self

As I reach my late teenage years, I would like to write an imaginary letter to my 12-year-old who is just about to enter his teen-life. So here it goes-

Hi. This is the 16- year- old Himanaya from the future. Yeah, I know your life is going great. You have a close group of good friends, get good grades and are doing well in sports too. But let me tell, you’re in for a wild ride in the future. Let me sum it up for you-

1. Many of your friends would leave school and you would reminisce about them a lot. You would barely have any friends (maybe 1-2) who were there with you since day one. But don’t worry, you will make a ton of new friends who are equally as good if not better. Also, 2 of your best friends will still be your best mates.

2. You love playing table tennis and are proud to be a part of the school team. But let me tell you, you would leave this sport and shift to Basketball and enjoy playing that much more. A bit difficult to digest since you once willingly left the basketball club once but it’s the truth. Also, you would stop playing cricket in the park in front of your house as none of your colony friends would come to play anymore. Instead, you will have a proper basketball stand at your house.

3. Your favorite tennis player, Rafael Nadal would win many more slams but would get injured many times as well. Your favorite cricketer M.S. Dhoni is still playing and is still winning games for India. Your favorite cager Kawhi Leonard has left the Spurs and helped the Raptors reach the finals.

4. A game named Fortnite would have you addicted and believe it or not, you would grow to hate your then-favorite game- Clash of Clans. Moreover, remember when you said that you don’t want a personal phone until you finish class 12? Well, that’s a blatant lie as you would ask and get a phone in grade 9 itself.

5. You would end up taking commerce instead of your then-favorite subject- Science. Your ambition of becoming a scientist would change to that of becoming an economist.

6. You wouldn’t care about marks anymore and would even give an exam without preparing for it. You would realize how foolish you were caring about marks so much.

7. You would end up becoming the coordinator of your school magazine and writing a story in a book. Moreover, you would start writing a blog. Writing would become your passion!!

8. Believe it or not, you would end up liking English songs more than Hindi songs. You would still be a movie buff.

9. Your hobby of reading would remain but the number of novels you would read won’t be much.

10. You would become much more confident than you were. You would still talk less in school but would stand up for yourself whenever the need be.

11. There would be really sad times but you will cope up with it. Some people will hate you and compare you with others but there would be no use thinking about them and their nonsense talks.

12. You will really mature and end up realizing that social media is a way for most people to show-off and waste time. You would stop comparing yourself to others and become more content with yourself.

13. You’d be involved in two motor accidents. You would escape without injuries but would start appreciating life more. You will also realize how lucky you are as compared to the rest of the world in terms of having materialistic comforts and luxuries, a loving and caring family, and a fairly smooth life

14. The person you would end up talking to the most is going to be a huge surprise and never in your wildest dream would you think that this would happen!

 

Like it or not, a huge adventure awaits you!

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It’s not wrong to be an introvert!

“Lighthouses don’t go running all over an island looking for boats to save; they just stand there shining”- Anne Lamott

There are 3 types of people in this world- Introverts, extroverts and ambiverts. There is a common belief that introverts are inferior to extroverts and ambiverts. This belief is not only prevalent amongst extroverts but some introverts too feel that their personality isn’t something to be proud of. I am totally against this thinking.

Now, I consider myself as an introvert who doesn’t enjoy being in the center of attention. I would rather sit at home and read a novel instead of going to parties. Many people view me as a shy boy who minds his own business and I am totally fine with that. I have my close group of friends with whom I can talk about anything. I might be shy with strangers but with my close friends, I am the biggest nuisance creator. I would sing songs and dance along with my close friends but I would feel uncomfortable doing it in front of people with whom I don’t talk much.

If people call you a “geek” or a “nerd”, let them. Do what you like. You weren’t born to please anybody! It’s better to curl up in your bed, reading your favourite book or watching a movie than going to parties and if you get bored there . I, myself hate going to social gatherings. Whenever I am forced to go to one, what I do is find a corner table, sit their and use my phone to write a blog or text my close friends. I can behave like an extrovert and talk to people if I have to but I get completely exhausted doing so. To me small talk is like food having minimal nutritional value . I would rather talk about planets and outer space than talking about what clothes people are wearing. Small talk might be good to start a conversation but has no role thereafter. You can initiate a conversation with small talk but to become good friends with someone and to maintain that friendship, the role of small talk is negligible.

I agree that one should know how to talk to people confidently but that doesn’t mean you have to go on talking the whole day long. Speaking irrelevant and nonsensical things all the time serves no purpose and is utter wastage of time. There is zero relation between talking and achieving success.

I would often feel that I was missing out on a lot of things by avoiding going to functions and parties. When I would see my schoolmates add posts on their social media accounts about where they are partying, I would often question myself if I was wrong in not going to parties. But when I went to a few of them, I realized loud music and dancing isn’t for me and I should stick to staying at home playing video games with my close friends and reading the latest novels by my favourite writers. So, if everyone is doing something, it doesn’t mean you have to do it too. If you don’t like it, don’t do it. Don’t succumb under peer- pressure. I embrace my personality type and know that nobody cares if I attend a gathering.

No personality type is superior to another. Don’t think that being an introvert or extrovert is bad; Live life the way you want to.

Over and Out