Make it memorable!

Memories may fade as the years go by but they won’t age a day.

Michelle C. Ustaszeski

Do things that you can laugh and smile at for years to come. Do things to people which make them remember you even after you are gone from their life or don’t meet them often. Do things that would make them go “Ah! Himanaya did that for me!” when someone even does something remotely related to what you did. Cherish the good memories and learn from the bad ones.

Do what you like. Don’t succumb under the pressure of others. When you love someone, be it a friend or a soulmate, ensure that your love is such that they never forget you. When you are committed to something, do it with all of your heart. It should be as if your work and actions speak for you and that people always remember you for what you did, be it professional or personal.

Create memories. They are going to be something you are going to live with forever. 

Personally speaking, I was going through a rough patch recently. Of course, I will remember what all bad happened. But what I will remember more vividly are the friends who stuck by me every step of the way and offered all that they could. 

Also, I was strongly considering changing my subjects to Sciences. Even though I decided against it, but when I told one of my friends about it(who is pursuing a career in medicine), he quickly started telling me what all I needed to do to cover up the syllabus. We might not meet often in the future but deeds such as these will immortalize him in my heart forever.

Apologize when you do something wrong. At most, the other person won’t accept it. What difference would it make? All it would do is give you peace of mind. On the other side too, learn to forgive. Give people second chances. We are humans. We commit mistakes. However, do know when to stop trusting someone.

I had a friend and we don’t talk anymore, But what I know is that memories we created are going to last forever out of which most were full of sweetness and joy. Of course, there were some problems but 10 years down the line, I don’t see them coming up on my mind at first when I think of them. What I will remember with happiness is the side of that person that made me love them and not the side which did the opposite. 

It’s 1 A.M. when I’m writing this blog. Music is playing on full volume and I’m surprised that it hasn’t woken up anyone in my home. It might be stupid being awake at this time when I have my Math exam in like 2 days. But it will be these stupid moments that I will always treasure in my life. I had the most fun in quite some time tonight talking all nonsense with my loved ones but it as I said it was fun and that is all which matters. 

As Vir Das says, “I’m stupid, this is stupid, you’re stupid. God, you’re so stupid. And that’s why this is so wonderful. He adds, ” Show the universe and, more importantly, yourself that this moment doesn’t own you, you own this moment.” (To read the entire speech that he gave at Knox college, and I really recommend it, go to – https://www.knox.edu/news/commencement-2018/das-speech

Don’t pollute your future memories by trying to seek validation of what you are doing through social media. Nobody cares(except a handful whom you don’t need to explain yourself to) of what you are doing and why you are doing.

When your life flashes through your mind on your deathbed, you should be laughing. Why? Because of all the joyful recollections of incidents that you would have had in your life

Make memories. Do memorable things. Nobody is going to care about your “reputation’ after a while. After all, memories are what we live for…And yes, try writing a diary regularly in which you express all your experiences and feelings. Trust me, you will feel a lot of pleasure reading it from say a year from now.

Over and out

Lessons I’ve learned as a teenager

Being a teenager is quite an experience. Hormones are kicking through your body , you have mental breakdowns and one moment you are on top of the world and the next you hit rock bottom.

Here is what I have learnt during my teenage years-

  1. Don’t follow what others are doing blindly. Go where your heart desires and don’t succumb under peer pressure.
  2. Don’t indulge in alcohol just as yet.
  3. STAY away from smoking.
  4. Academics is important even if it is not everything.
  5. Pursue your hobby, be it writing, a sport or playing an instrument.
  6. Keep your friends small circle and don’t trust everyone.
  7. Listen to your parents and your friends. You are not always correct.
  8. Don’t do something just to prove someone wrong.
  9. Play video games but in moderation
  10. You can’t live without social media but don’t make it an addiction.Networking sites like Quora are much better than Snapchat and Facebook.
  11. Don’t demand products of luxury brands from your parents. If you want a Gucci bag, earn it.
  12. Be grateful for everything.
  13. You learn something from every single person and object in this world.
  14. Don’t just watch motivational videos and read philosophical quotes. If you want to follow them, be cautious
  15. Infatuation isn’t love so don’t fall for every other person.Get to know the person first.
  16. Have ambitions and dreams. If you don’t have something to be excited about or don’t have anything in particular to do when you wake up, you are wasting your life.
  17. Don’t oversleep or overeat just because you are feeling sad.
  18. Listen to music. It does help improve your mood.
  19. Express your feelings to your loved ones.
  20. You only have your family in the darkest times except one or two friends(who are basically family)
  21. Don’t over-trust. Your best friend can become your worst enemy tomorrow.

Over and out

Is Social Media really doing us any good?

Let me start off today’s post with my experience of what people post nowadays on social networking sites like Snapchat and Instagram. The most common posts I see include driving in a car with some songs on and putting up stories which state how much time is left for a friend’s birthday. I find no sense in such types of posts. How do I care if you are driving somewhere within a city while listening to songs or how much time is left for one’s birthday.When their birthday will come, wish them in person as they are your friends. No point wishing on social media if you are meeting them everyday in your school or workplace or talking to them on phone. What’s more interesting is that people ask their friends themselves to put up stories state how much time is left for their birthday. I scoff at the stupidity of such people .I just don’t understand what would one get by getting wished on social media by their closest friends.It might be because such people are insecure about their status in the society or they think that their self-esteem and respect would increase if people post about them.(These are solely my views. You are free to disagree and voice your opinion in the comment section.Also I would love to know if such types of posts are prevalent outside India too). I strongly think that social media is making us insecure about our lives.

The above example gives us a glimpse of the bad side of social media and I would again touch that topic later in this blog. But there is indeed a positive side to social media as well. It helps us in obtaining opinions of different people regarding a certain issue. It also allows us to follow our favourite celebrities and helps us to connect with people in different parts of the world. It is also an effective tool to promote our businesses(You are probably here viewing my blog just becasue of Instagram, Snapchat or Facebook). So obviously social media isn’t that bad as some people project it to be.

But there is a really dark side to it as well. Besides making people insecure about their lives(I actually felt left out and insecure because of social media for a certain period of time), I feel social networking has become the primary activity in many people’s lives. You go to a party, all people are doing is using their phones and putting up stories that they are partying at abc place. They seldom talk to each other at social gatherings and are busy on their phones updating their status and putting up stories.

Another thing that sucks about social media is that it shows only one part of a person’s life and how unreliable it is in telling what is actually happening in one’ life. Lets take the example of Avicii,the famous Swedish musician who committed suicide almost an year back. If you followed him on instagram, you would know how merry his posts were just before he committed suicide. He was recording music , going on trips with friends and seemed happy in general. And then one day, news flashed on our phones that Avicii has committed suicide because he was suffering from depression. This shows there is a lot of difference in what happens in real life and what is shown on social media.

I don’t discourage anyone to use social media as it as great source of information, entertainment and business tool. But, just think that before adding a post that is your post relevant and would interest others. If yes, go ahead and post it. If no, I would strongly advise you to restrain from adding it to your feed.

Over and Out