Lessons I’ve learned as a teenager

Being a teenager is quite an experience. Hormones are kicking through your body , you have mental breakdowns and one moment you are on top of the world and the next you hit rock bottom.

Here is what I have learnt during my teenage years-

  1. Don’t follow what others are doing blindly. Go where your heart desires and don’t succumb under peer pressure.
  2. Don’t indulge in alcohol just as yet.
  3. STAY away from smoking.
  4. Academics is important even if it is not everything.
  5. Pursue your hobby, be it writing, a sport or playing an instrument.
  6. Keep your friends small circle and don’t trust everyone.
  7. Listen to your parents and your friends. You are not always correct.
  8. Don’t do something just to prove someone wrong.
  9. Play video games but in moderation
  10. You can’t live without social media but don’t make it an addiction.Networking sites like Quora are much better than Snapchat and Facebook.
  11. Don’t demand products of luxury brands from your parents. If you want a Gucci bag, earn it.
  12. Be grateful for everything.
  13. You learn something from every single person and object in this world.
  14. Don’t just watch motivational videos and read philosophical quotes. If you want to follow them, be cautious
  15. Infatuation isn’t love so don’t fall for every other person.Get to know the person first.
  16. Have ambitions and dreams. If you don’t have something to be excited about or don’t have anything in particular to do when you wake up, you are wasting your life.
  17. Don’t oversleep or overeat just because you are feeling sad.
  18. Listen to music. It does help improve your mood.
  19. Express your feelings to your loved ones.
  20. You only have your family in the darkest times except one or two friends(who are basically family)
  21. Don’t over-trust. Your best friend can become your worst enemy tomorrow.

Over and out

Why do we follow trends?

“Forget the rules! If you like it, wear it.”

Welcome to the late 2010s where wearing ripped jeans has become chic and listening to Drake has become a norm. I have nothing against ripped jeans or Drake but my problem is with those people who blindly follow the latest trends even if they don’t like it. Many of my friends just listen to English Songs just because everyone is listening to them. As a result, Hindi songs are becoming less and less popular day by day which too are beautiful(at least some of them).I don’t say that English songs are bad for I love them too but there is no point listening to them if you don’t understand them or like them.

Let me take another example. People put up stories on Instagram doing stupid things like giving “TBH” of people and rating them out of 10(I don’t know if its prevalent everywhere but my feed is full of such idiotic things). And how can I forget people putting up stories wishing people birthdays instead of just messaging or calling them directly. What’s more surprising is that people post stories of the messages they have got for birthdays on Snapchat and Instagram. And why do they do this? Just because everyone is doing so and they they think it’s fashionable and is a trend which needs to be followed.

Children of tender ages have their own smartphones even when they don’t need it one bit. All they do is play games on it and watch useless videos on YouTube. And not any ordinary smartphone, they have started demanding the latest iPhones and Google Pixels . Why? Again, because everyone has one and they want to look “stylish”. There are some people who even post pictures on social networking sites showing the latest phone or laptop they just bought! I don’t understand the reasoning behind such posts. Most of them behave as if they bought it with their own money while it was their parents who bought them whatever they have. Again it’s a trend which is senseless

People don’t study just because Steve Jobs and Bill Gates were dropouts. What they don’t realise is they were dropouts from ivy-league colleges. I agree that school education is not up to the mark but just wasting time roaming here and there, driving illegally over the speed limits and wasting your parents’ money won’t make you the next Mark Zuckerberg. People who think so, I’m sorry to burst your bubble but you are not living in the real world!

Another thing that recently surprised me was that people are donating to Kylie Jenner so that she can become the youngest billionaire. I don’t know what are such fans thinking! Again, nothing against Kylie Jenner, it was with hard work that she has achieved so much at such a young age but why on earth are we even thinking about donating to a person who has millions instead of donating to help the millions of people who don’t even have food to eat and roof above their heads.

Also , the trend of watching Netflix shows and being on Instagram the whole night is becoming really popular. People have started sacrificing their sleep for some petty reasons. When your friends brag about how they were awake till 5 AM watching Game Of Thrones, be happy that you didn’t give up your sleep for a show.

Everyone is busy following things and people that we ourselves don’t try to create trends that are much more sensible. Why don’t we create a trend of a 1 month challenge asking people to show the before and after picture of a place which was littered with dirt and now is clean with the efforts that they put in . Or we can create a craze for clothes whose creation involves providing employment to a lot of people. Or create a fashion for helping orphanages and old-age home by providing assistance in any form.

Over and Out


Why I am leaving Blogging

2 months ago, I started blogging. I really loved doing it. The number of views, the country they were from, the number of likes and the number of comments that my blog would excite the little kid in me.

Then one month ago, I monetized my site with my own custom domain name hoping to get more traffic. However, nothing of such sort happened. I hoped to earn some amount of money out if my blog and even though thousands of ads are being served, the CPM I get is so low that I would barely be able to recover my investment.

I have no topics left to write on. Also, blogging has become a chore. Thinking of topics, regulating comments, checking stats, etc takes up too much of my time. After I publish a blog post, the advertising that I have to do is also not easy. Putting up stories on social media and telling and convincing people to advertise my blog is really hard. Not-so-constructive criticism brings me down.Also, the disappointment that follows if a blog post doesn’t do well is very difficult to handle. I think I could use my time in a much more effective way rather than writing a blog

Also

HAPPY APRIL FOOLS DAY

P.S- None of the things mentioned above is true and I have no intention of leaving blogging.

Is Social Media really doing us any good?

Let me start off today’s post with my experience of what people post nowadays on social networking sites like Snapchat and Instagram. The most common posts I see include driving in a car with some songs on and putting up stories which state how much time is left for a friend’s birthday. I find no sense in such types of posts. How do I care if you are driving somewhere within a city while listening to songs or how much time is left for one’s birthday.When their birthday will come, wish them in person as they are your friends. No point wishing on social media if you are meeting them everyday in your school or workplace or talking to them on phone. What’s more interesting is that people ask their friends themselves to put up stories state how much time is left for their birthday. I scoff at the stupidity of such people .I just don’t understand what would one get by getting wished on social media by their closest friends.It might be because such people are insecure about their status in the society or they think that their self-esteem and respect would increase if people post about them.(These are solely my views. You are free to disagree and voice your opinion in the comment section.Also I would love to know if such types of posts are prevalent outside India too). I strongly think that social media is making us insecure about our lives.

The above example gives us a glimpse of the bad side of social media and I would again touch that topic later in this blog. But there is indeed a positive side to social media as well. It helps us in obtaining opinions of different people regarding a certain issue. It also allows us to follow our favourite celebrities and helps us to connect with people in different parts of the world. It is also an effective tool to promote our businesses(You are probably here viewing my blog just becasue of Instagram, Snapchat or Facebook). So obviously social media isn’t that bad as some people project it to be.

But there is a really dark side to it as well. Besides making people insecure about their lives(I actually felt left out and insecure because of social media for a certain period of time), I feel social networking has become the primary activity in many people’s lives. You go to a party, all people are doing is using their phones and putting up stories that they are partying at abc place. They seldom talk to each other at social gatherings and are busy on their phones updating their status and putting up stories.

Another thing that sucks about social media is that it shows only one part of a person’s life and how unreliable it is in telling what is actually happening in one’ life. Lets take the example of Avicii,the famous Swedish musician who committed suicide almost an year back. If you followed him on instagram, you would know how merry his posts were just before he committed suicide. He was recording music , going on trips with friends and seemed happy in general. And then one day, news flashed on our phones that Avicii has committed suicide because he was suffering from depression. This shows there is a lot of difference in what happens in real life and what is shown on social media.

I don’t discourage anyone to use social media as it as great source of information, entertainment and business tool. But, just think that before adding a post that is your post relevant and would interest others. If yes, go ahead and post it. If no, I would strongly advise you to restrain from adding it to your feed.

Over and Out